Twenty-somethings Vs Thirty-somethings


I have been watching this Elle Darby debacle from afar and first thoughts were, yes the hotel owner is completely out of order, but having read the response from Elle I sadly now have a different opinion.

I want start by saying I’m not “trolling” or “Cyberbullying” I am simply giving my opinion as a 35 year old working woman.

Paul Stenson’s reaction was very unprofessional but as I do with all my potential clients, I did some research. It was apparent early on, just a few clicks, that this man has a reputation for calling people out and the approach made by Elle was like taking candy from a baby.

Paul took his chance and ran with it. He has since been featured over many platforms, both print and digital, all for sharing a controversial post he knew the young world of bloggers would jump on.

I use email marketing and social media for my business almost exclusively, I know I’m 35 how dare I!

Having done a bit of research I would have taken a different approach with this business and stayed at the hotel incognito and done an expose on the vile man who runs the place, or found out that it really is a wonderful place and ask him at the end if he would like some exposure. Come on, you’re a professional businesswoman surely you can afford a break away, surely you have a budget set aside for marketing and travelling?


I honestly thought the email came across as unprofessional with little thought put into it. Almost a copy and paste style email I used to send starting out. Asking for a freebie without a conversation over the phone or at least a few email exchanges. To be clear you did ask for asked for FREE accomodation with no mention of a discounted stay.

His reply, while absolutely awful, did have some valid points. I have lent my services to quite a number of bloggers on the understanding I would get fantastic coverage across social media and while I got the odd tweet any bookings came from my own self promotion. In fact the only “influencing” I experienced was bloggers asking for my services for free!! Their budget just can’t stretch that far but they promise long term benefits because their first event will go viral. More out of research and a nice night away, all paid for by me, I do the event.

When I do an event for free it can cost me anything between £100 -£250. In my line of work it is imperative I set aside a budget each year for marketing and offering freebies is a part of that strategy.

Interesting fact. I share my free events, around 6 per year, across two markets, the bloggers and charities and I get so much more interaction and future bookings from the charities I work with. They are so gracious and really understand the costs of me providing my services for free whereas, and I don’t mean to seem harsh here, the blogging community can’t seem to wait to see what is in their goody bag and taking selfies.

Every credit to Elle for having the ball’s to ask for a freebie outright. I personally would have expected a similar response albeit without the nastiness. A polite thanks but no thanks detailing the reasons why would have sufficed, but as I said Paul saw this as an opportunity to turn it into a positive for his hotel.

Regarding the Independent article I completely agree and I have often managed to get free spots at exhibitions and fayres because of my USP and the feature it provides at events, I just think she approached it all wrong without building up a working relationship first.

A media savvy person does their research and I think in this situation Elle unfortunately hasn’t come out on top. At the end of the day this can be put down to a bad day at the office, we all have them, look at the Zoella advent calendar scandal!

I was going to let it go and put it down to the fact that we all make mistakes and she is actually doing very well which I admire in any ambitious person, whatever they are doing.


A little way into her vlog she brings up the fact that any negative comment has come from the over 30’s and yes I have seen the follow up video, oh sorry Vlog, I went old school!!

She says she isn’t ageist but is literally despairing with her head in her hands at “older people” telling us that just because she can work from home at 22 anyone over 30 with a 9-5 job hasn’t aspired to their dreams. You did say that, you can’t deny it. Hey I’m not stupid and times have changed but I know people in their 50’s and 60’s who can run rings around me on Social Media. Never underestimate the older person, they have more life skills, knowledge and experience than any twenty-something or even thirty-something. Don’t get me wrong I did and said some outrageous things in my early twenties and I was always told, remember that in ten years time, your life can change in a day. How true.

I worked from the age of 14 in a bakery, hotels, corner shops saving hard for my dreams. Did I enjoy the 9-5 job, hell yes, it gave me life skills and experience with people from all walks of life and paid for me to live in America. I did this at 18 on my own and travelled the full West Coast and the full bredth of America ending up in New York were sadly I witnessed 9/11. A very sombre time for an 18 year old. Or anyone.

All I have to say is I paid for that whole experience myself and worked while I was there to pay for my experience. I wasn’t sat in my bedroom making Vlogs hoping to get enough hits for a free meal or stay in a hotel.

I have got nothing bad to say about bloggers and vloggers as they really have taken the world by storm, and are at a young age making good money. At least they are not scrounging of the state, but that’s a whole other issue. I know for a fact the hard work that goes into each post, a post that actually makes money anyway.

Without going on anymore, Elle, are you a 22 year old girl or a professional business woman?? Or, are you every time you get called out use anxiety and bullying as an excuse? You didn’t seem to be suffering from anxiety when you were calling out everyone over the age of 30.

Anxiety is not to be taken lightly but I think every time a blogger gets called out the word Anxiety is used several times in each post/vlog/instagram. If I put something out there I expect the comments back either positive or negative and I take them on the chin. Free speech, we all have our own opinion and if you put your opinion out there for the world to see expect a reaction. Personally for me, people suffering anxiety cannot cope with this, Zoella springs to mind in this particular thought. The phrase is used to easily. Accept you have mucked up, move on and stop blaming anyone over the age of 30. I saw some nasty comments don’t get me wrong but you have chosen your line of work and you have to accept the reaction when you have basically insulted over half the population. If this has upset you so much try working in a hotel or behind a shop counter and dealing with your anxiety when you encounter a difficult customer. You can’t hide behind a Vlog and turn of comments then.

I wish all the millenials well and hope you continue to make money but never underestimate the 35 year old events planner and 59 year old plumber. We work our arse off, maybe not to the dizzying heights of the Vloggers, Do we enjoy it? Yes we do (maybe Mario not so much, but who would unblock your toilet!) I’ve enjoyed every minute of my journey and it allows me to leave my bedroom on occasion.



Hollywood….My Opinion

This may be a controversial post for my comeback but here goes…..

Rose McGowan made this comment regarding Bill Cosby

“It was a white cottage industry. Everyone who worked with him are aiding and abetting a crime. These are the fuckers I’m going after”

By that sentiment isn’t that exactly what she has done?? McGowan accepted money in exchange for silence for 20 YEARS.

Just to point out I am not in any way trying to discredit her ordeal nor any other woman who has come forward and I hope justice is finally done for every single woman.

What I am having a problem with is that the elite of Hollywood, both male and female, knew all about this and did absolutely nothing. It is clear at this stage they were not rumours and were complicit in hiding it.

The most powerful people in Hollywood stayed silent whilst young, vulnerable actresses and backstage crew were being abused trying to make a living.

These women don’t make millions, they rely on their pay cheque to live week to week in this affluent area run by celebrities.

George Clooney, Matt Damon, Ben Affleck, Meryl Streep just name a very small handful. Where were they when it mattered? These people have had powerful and influential voices for many years. Brad Pitt dated and then married 2 actresses who admit to having bad experiences with Harvey Weinstein. I think Angelina Jolie has made the most positive comment when saying that she refused to work with Weinstein ever again and made sure to warn others.

One of the good ones but it wasn’t enough.

These vulnerable women had no voice. They were told to keep quiet or risk losing their respect and job, not just by the ones abusing but by many many well known and respected people throughout Hollywood.

McGowan, for years stopped an expose on the murky world of Hollywood. Why?

Was it so she could get her book finished following her ailing career knowing a scandal like this would catapult it onto the Time number best seller list?

It seems to me she has only found her voice and become a “feminist” in the lead up to this book being released.

I could not stand next to my abuser knowing he is doing the same to many other women and I could not do it with a smile on my face.

If standing up for myself and other women to stop abuse ruined my career then it was never the right path for me.

I think the point I am trying to make is that I think it is disappointing and disgraceful that the most powerful people in Hollywood kept quiet in order to make their millions.

Although it is fantastic that this has all finally been exposed #rosearmy is the wrong platform.

She knew all these women were being abused and stayed silent whilst furthering her career for 20 YEARS.

The other problem is that I feel #rosearmy has turned into a witch hunt condemning every male. and I think soon every man will feel afraid to even say hello to a woman, shake her hand or even give her a little kiss on the cheek to say hello. The more that is coming out the more it will impact genuine male/female friendships in both the real world and the business world without fear of being accused for a slip of a hand or a comment made.

The women who have come forward are so brave and I mean that with all my heart. I haven’t been so brave but please don’t thank Rose McGowan. She was a massive factor in allowing this to go on. She knew for 20 YEARS standing next to a man who was systematically abusing vulnerable women smiling without a care in the world. And now she has a book to promote.

The sexual predators need to be stopped, I am just very saddened that it has taken Rose McGowan, a book deal and 20 years to speak out. At this moment in time Hollywood should be ashamed and embarrassed by what they have helped cover up.

This might not be a popular opinion but is mine.

My Friday Feeling Tea!!

Hi Everyone!

After a couple of weeks of looking after stressed out brides and bridesmaids my Sunday Reading post will be the second in my Hen Party Series and will be about how to plan a stress free hen party. Everyone talks about Wedding Season but these last few weeks I think I have experienced my very own Hen Party Season!

I wouldn’t have it any other way, I just love the feeling I get when I have helped someone with an important part of their special day.

My other passion is cooking and I thought I would fit a quick recipe post in between Party Planning!

I have had a super busy day packing orders, responding to emails and continuing with various stages of wedding planning so when my lovely man told me he fancied a nice home cooked meal, as opposed to our usual quickie Fish Friday at Wetherspoons it was the last thing on my mind…..But my man works so hard (in a very physical job) and is so brilliant to me. He works his own job then comes home and works with me on our business without question and never moans. The least I can do is make sure he has a home cooked meal after a hard days work.

My passion for cooking came from meeting Mr Seaside, before that I was strictly a cocktails and pizza girl but that would never work in this relationship and now I am a career girl/housewife!! The man changed my life and I love him!!

Anyway I digress I just wanted to share the yummy recipe I whipped up because it really was just delicious!

Friday is our fish theme so I popped down to our local market and treated us to tuna steaks from the fish counter. I am also Budget Girl so this really was a treat. i then used the rest of our local shops to buy the veg, salad and of course the wine! I believe in using local businesses and supporting them.

Anyway here is the recipe for my marinated tuna steak!


2 tuna steaks (if you are on a budget Iceland do them for a good price frozen)


For Marinade

60mls orange juice

60mls soy sauce

2 tbsp parsley

1/2 tsp oregano

1 tbsp lemon juice

Black pepper to taste


Mix all the marinade ingredients and place in large dish. Add tuna and turn a couple of times to coat. Place in fridge for at least 30 mins.

While this is in the fridge I like to prepare a salad with a vinaigrette dressing. Here’s how I do it.

Cut up finely any salad items you want to add and then mix the following for the dressing;

3 tbsp olive oil

2 tbsp white wine vinegar

1 tsp dijon mustard (add more according to taste)

1tsp honey (again add more to taste)

salt and pepper

Mix together in a bottle or use whisk and drizzle over salad.

Once tuna is ready add a little oil to a frying pan and add tuna, fry for 3-5 minutes depending on taste. Turn over and baste with the marinade and fry for a further 3-5 mins.

Your meal  is now ready!! Serve with new potatoes and salad. To make it extra tasty add salt and butter to your potatoes…..YUMMY!

The lovely Mr Seaside more than approved and so did our cat!! Gourmet meal for Beau. I also made too many potatoes much to our chickens delight, seems to be their favourite food!!

Oh and don’t forget to serve with a lovely cold white wine!

This post is without pictures as I forgot I took the pic with my camera phone! Dizzy Blonde! I am off out so I will post the picture with my next post on Sunday x

Happy Reading and hopefully Happy Experimenting xx



The Hen Party Series Part 1

Hi all, I’m back at last!! I have been wanting to for ages but now I have been forced into it I thought I should get right back in it!

I fell off the side of a kerb, in true blonde style as my mother says, and badly injured my back. I literally haven’t been able to move for three days. I’m just starting to go stir crazy so today I have been adding new products to my website and eagerly getting through my enquiries for new brides.

I am going to share one of my new products with you today but first I thought I would share a lovely cocktail recipe which is easy to make and can be made whilst all you  girls are getting ready for a fab hen night.

The Raspberry Daiquiri

There is a tartness and sweetness that fuse together just so to make this a beautiful, tasty cocktail.


50 ml light rum

25ml lime juice

2 spoons caster sugar

6 raspberries


Add 5 raspberries, saving one for garnish, along with the caster sugar into a mixing glass and muddle into a paste.

This means to press the ingredients against the glass until it breaks down into a paste therefore releasing the flavours so they mix with the alcohol better. If you don’t have a muddler the end of a wooden spoon will be OK as will the end of a heavy butter knife.

Add the rum and the lime and fill the glass with ice.

Pour into the cocktail shaker and shake vigorously for 15 seconds.

Double strain into a cocktail glass and garnish with raspberry  and any other decoration you wish!

Enjoy them with some canapes before you leave on your big night out or if you are enjoying a girls night in.

There are lots of simple recipes on the internet. When I made my cocktails I tried the following recipe from a blog called Wrapped Up In Rainbows and they are just so simple and tasty.

You can enjoy these treats while dressing the bride up and playing silly games from our fabulous new Hen Party Bags. They are great value for money and lots of fun.



Fabulous filled party bags full of treats for a great night out.

Each bag comes with 15 fun items to help get your night of to a brilliant start. 

 Standard Items include:

Tiara, name tag, scratch a dare cards, truth and dare cards, sweets and lollies,willy straw, a sparkly wand, mini touchable bubbles, neon shot glass, small willy whistle, balloons, badge with funny slogans.

These are the items in the standard bag but items can be changed at our discretion. Just contact us using the contact form and we will rovide a list of alternative items.


The Bride To Be’s bag will contain a cute dress up pack and selfie stick prop pack

When ten bags or more are purchased the bride will receive a relaxing pamper basket containing handmade natural soaps, moisturising shea butters, bath bombs, bath melts, foot soak,candles and more!

*****The contents of this basket is worth at least £20****

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hen party

This first Hen Party blog was an introduction to my series and our new line of products.

My next post will be all about picking a theme for your Hen do whether you are planning a full blown weekend away or you are working to a budget there will be plenty of ideas and hints and tips.

Stayed tuned if you are planning your hen party or you are the maid of honour who has been given this daunting task!

Believe me, speaking from experience it is very hard to please all the girls attending. There will always be someone not happy I can assure you!

Happy blogging and wedding planning and see you all soon!

Simply Bowie

I have realised today that you don’t truly know how influential someone is until they are gone.

I think today is a day everyone will know where the were when they found out the legend David Bowie had died.

I was mid argument with my boyfriend in the kitchen and I switched off the radio because he wasn’t listening. He was in the middle of having a go back because he liked that song (told you he wasn’t listening!) when he stopped and told me to turn it back on. Why have they just played 3 David Bowie songs in a row he asked. He already knew the answer Switching the radio back on confirmed what he had first thought.

I rarely get upset about famous peoples deaths, I save my emotions for my family and close friends.  But this was different.

The argument was forgotten in a second as we were shocked into silence. I got quite emotional much to my surprise and I spent the rest of the day figuring out why I was so upset over the death of a singer.

David Bowie was more than just a singer. He inspired more people in this world than he probably ever thought possible all those years ago.

At this point you should probably know a bit more about me and my man. I am a 33 year old, sometimes “girly girl”, sometimes “ladette”(as my best friend calls me!) I am into all the frothy pop, I watch X factor, Britain’s Got Talent, you get the drift! I still like all the classics as my mum always had the record player on at home for me and my sister to dance to.

Mr Seaside is a bit older than me, I won’t tell you how much older! He grew up with David Bowie from the beginning, he is a music buff and the Popmaster king. He hates all the modern stuff, so in that sense we are polar opposites! We fight over 6 Music and Heart FM on a daily basis.

For Mr Seaside the loss of David Bowie is a shock because he has grown up with every great song ever released throughout the decades, he has lived each great moment in his epic career and I’m sure he has a memory for every song. There hasn’t been a time in his life without a David Bowie record.

For me its a bit different. I wasn’t there for all the greats and didn’t live through it but obviously you don’t get through life without listening to his records.

The first time I took an interest in Bowie was when I watched the film Labryinth. No one else I know has ever watched it which I can’t believe but I found it fascinating. I just loved him  in the film and his career. I couldn’t help admire his confidence and the fact he followed his own path, even from such a young age I knew I wanted to be as confident as him.

I have had a crap year and been judged more than you could ever know. I have always been a very strong, confident opinionated person. I make my own mind up and quite often take a different path to most people. Sometimes to my advantage and sometimes not. (not everyone likes a strongwilled woman!) The point I am making is that David Bowie was a massive influence on the person I have become.

When I am going through bad times I always look to strong, independent, confident people to bring me out of it and remind myself who I should be.

I admire him in life and now death for his strength and dignity. I admire him even more for the absolute class and bold confidence in which he lived his life.

David Bowie was strong, confident and had amazing character. He showed everybody in this world that we can be anything we want to be.


RIP David Bowie










Coming alive again…

I am back. Back from a few weeks of almost falling into a very deep depression. I have been through a lot this year, which I won’t bore you with, but I have always come back fighting and strong.

However just recently I’ve just felt that I have been knocked down at every turn and no one has fought my corner (apart from my beautiful partner)

My low point was when I was sitting at my local pub, heading my quiz team and then breaking down in tears for no apparent reason. I was sat at the bar, everyone knows me and listened to my complete meltdown. I am normally the life and soul of anywhere (without being bigheaded) so this was very unusual.

We didn’t win by the way!!

I went home, put on Elf (always makes you smile!), opened a bottle of wine and browsed the internet as I always do.

I accidently came across an interview with Rachel Weisz which has changed the way I think. This is what she said ……

“Things have become too glossy for women. We have to be ‘likeable’, which is not very likeable at all.It’s hard to like someone who’s just sweet. You want a real person, one who irritates you and mystifies you and frustrates you and makes you cry. You want everything from a character. Not to just stand there and look nice. Likeability is code for ‘Shut up and look good’.”

I know she is talking about the movie world and getting jobs but I took this and used it in my situation and it was as true there as it was in Hollywood.

Everyone knows me, really everyone! I am annoying, opinionated, crazy if you like. But.. I care about everyone I know and will do anything for anyone.

I walk into my local and people love me or hate me. I am a self made woman, I dress to impress, I stand my ground, I am opinionated, I infuriate people but I love my special people and that will never change, no matter what others say.

I am Real and I am here!!

Be true to yourself and if people don’t like it, I know what  I would say!!


This is me back, better than before!!


New York, New York

I’ve decided to go off on a tangent for my next few blogs, over time you will notice this a lot, but whatever happens I’m sure we will have lots of fun!!

Last year, January to be precise, Mr S and I decided we just had to visit New York City. I had visited before but he hadn’t so I jumped at the opportunity to take my special man there.

The last time I was there it was on the way home from having a spell living and travelling in the USA. The last stop was my beloved New York, a place I had dreamed of visiting since I had been a young girl.

The day I arrived was September 11th 2001, the saddest day of my entire life. Since returning home I have always vowed to go back, not only to pay my respects to those who perished that awful day but to give New York the love and joy  it so thoroughly deserves.

It just seemed so right to take Mr S with me on this journey. America has a special place in both our hearts so it seemed perfect.

It was only when having a clear out and I found my “New York Planning” notebook ( I am obsessed with notebooks and planning!) that I decided to share our wonderful memories,.. and what better way than my brand new blog!

I planned for weeks and weeks beforehand, looking at places to go, reviews, costings etc. (we did it on a budget!) and then I kept a diary of everywhere we went, our reviews and opinions and how much it cost us. (I told you I was obsessed!)

I want to share my incredible week with you all and hope you get something out of it. I won’t bombard you, I will do it in 3 series, so stayed tuned in and hopefully you will enjoy my diary of a week in New York City,

Enjoy my lovelies, much as I enjoy reading your adventures in life xxx


A Little Bit About Me!

Before I jump straight into this new blogging world I thought it best to share a little bit about me so you can all get to know me a little!

Firstly I plan weddings and events, I work all over the North West and have been know to occasionally pop down south for work. My job is my passion in life and I am known to be in constant work mode. If an idea pops into my head my trusty notebook comes out and that’s me lost in thought for the next hour or so! Mr Seaside has become used to this quirk about me and happily lets me get on whilst he catches up with all the football/cricket/tennis (basically any sport!) news on his phone.

I will be sharing lots of pictures of my work here, mainly because I love looking at how a room looks when I finish it but also because I’m a wannabe photographer. I’m pretty rubbish at the moment but I hope to get better using my new camera and not just my phone! Feedback is always appreciated!

My other passion in life is my lovely Mr Seaside and my life at home with him.

He is the most amazing, supportive partner you could ever wish for and never once moans when I drag him to help me set up an event for 500 people when he has just finished his long hard job!

We have lots of fun together looking after our mixture of pets, walking in the lakes and general cosiness together.

What do I like to do in my spare time? I don’t have much of it but I do love walking and camping in the Lake District.

Its fantastic being so close so we do spend a bit of time there. I will be sharing lots of photos and walking stories with you.

Some stories verge on the ridiculous, with Mr Seaside being very adventurous and I…, well I am not! I have found myself in some absolutely stupid situations, which looking back are now rather hilarious, and so are the photos that accompany them!

Look out for Little Miss Seaside goes Camping in the near future!

My other hobby is cooking. This is a surprising one for me as I was always the eternal party girl, I was happy living of cocktails and ready meals!

Since settling down I’ve realised the old cliché “The way to a mans heart is through is stomach” is definitely true! Mr Seaside is never happier than when he comes home to a home cooked meal.

After learning the basics I began to really enjoy creating recipes and now its become one of my favourite things to do, whilst helping me relax! I often have cooking competitions with my friend who sees himself as an eccentric Jamie Oliver! Mr S is always the judge which I don’t think he minds one bit.

So that’s it, a little bit about me or maybe more than you wanted to know! I don’t know what bracket to put this blog in. I will be writing about my life, what I get up to at work, my days out walking, my cooking adventures etc. I also want to put my business out there about more which I won’t lie about. I think this is a more interesting way of doing it. I’ve come to really enjoy reading peoples blogs and what they get up to, I’ve found myself looking forward to reading peoples adventures on a daily basis.

What it definitely is not is a beauty blog, I am terrible at applying make up, doing my hair, painting nails etc. I look to other peoples blogs to help me!

I suppose it could be called a lifestyle blog as I will blogging about my lifestyle. I just hope I can make it fun for people to read and as time goes on I can make it my own and have lots of fun with it!  I am sure it will develop its own personality over time.

Right, the sun is out, I’ve finally written my first post, I think a little walk down to the seaside to enjoy a lovely glass of wine is the order of the day!!